What would happen if you simply breathed and relaxed until something shifted and your state changed?

It is habit to act on impulses that arise from our personalities. One of my habitual impulses is to worry and I can slide into that quickly, without even being aware of the slide. Others slide habitually into belligerence or stepping in to chaos to take charge. And others slide easily into needing to be needed. Perhaps you slide into filling that empty space with cookies or adding more responsibilities to your to-do list. What difference does it make? Why does it matter if can't turn off the "worry fountain" or you push people close to you to do things a little better, a little faster, a little more your way? It matters because when we act on habitual impulses, we create behavior loops w

Why work to cultivate kindness when it is easier to snap?

As humans, we are wired for kindness. We are drawn to people who friendly, generous and affectionate. If you are like me, you know what generosity feels like and you know it's a good way to be. And you also know from experience that it's very easy to "snap" when under pressure, as most of us are during the current pandemic. Snap at the small child who squeaks for the hundredth time this hour, snap at the coworker who asks mundane questions on the Zoom meeting, snap at the partner who doesn't wipe up the bathroom counters. What if I caught myself before the "snap" and refocused that energy on cultivating kindness? Yes, please. Cultivating kindness begins with noticing the "hook" before my

What is no longer invisible to you?

As my days become less frenzied and more structured, my mind is settling. I have noticed that the fog obstructing my vision is clearing, in some places, and I can see things that used to be invisible to me. While I have been generally aware of the struggle within our public education system, many parts are largely invisible to me, primarily because of my privilege. And I own that. I am aware of the struggle within school districts to provide quality education for a very diverse student body. I hear about how difficult it is to teach with limited resources. I know that many children are food insecure and do not have adequate parental supervision. My daughter, who teaches second grade in



Hello, I'm Ricka -

I'm a Nationally Board Certified (NBC-HWC) Integrative Health and Wellbeing Coach. I specialize in working with physician leaders, corporate leaders, non-profit executives and their families to navigate complex work and personal issues so they can strengthen their relationships, heal, and feel hopeful about the future again. 



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