"If I know all of this, why do I need you?"
"If I know all of this, why do I need you?" said one of my very favorite clients.
No matter where you are stuck or overwhelmed, how does remembering that "knowing" and "doing" are both important elements in successful change support your optimal health?
Her comment made me smile... because in her comment, she hit the nail on the head.
Deep down, for many of us, there is a disconnect between what we "know" and what we "do."
We know that some of our relationships are "itchy," but it's easier to stay with status quo than put the work into easing the itch.
We know that eating that second piece of chocolate cake doesn't make us feel good, but we do it anyway.
And we know that staying in a career that we have outgrown is bad news, but we're afraid of leaving because we don't know what is next.
The stress reactions get stronger and stronger until they finally get our attention - the edginess and fighting, the withdrawing, the shutting down.
When it gets to be too much, my clients seek me out. The work we do together turns the "knowing" into bite-size action steps that slowly, almost imperceptibly at first, blends the knowing into the doing, until they are inseparable - one and the same.
We practice responding, rather than reacting, and notice the difference it makes in relationship.
We practice recognizing and owning universal needs, rather than blaming others and notice how it shifts how we view work.
And we practice noticing what space we are actually filling up by eating the second piece of cake.
When my clients shift, I shift, too. Connecting "knowing" with "doing" is a life-long practice.
When I remember that knowing and doing are "both/and," rather than "either/or" in successful change, it feels super healthy.
Make remembering to practice shifting from knowing through to doing, on a regular basis, a healthy habit.