- Ricka Robb Kohnstamm
What is becoming clearer to you?
Most of us spend a big chunk of our lives in the fog, frustrated by not being able to clearly see the way forward. We might freeze in place or resign ourselves to blindly putting one foot in front of the other without an expectation of vision.
We worry, we ruminate, we catastrophize...
"Where the heck am I going?"
"How do I get there?"
"Why isn't this easier?"
"How does everyone else seem to know where they are going?"
"Why am I stuck in this place?"
Most of our time is spent, nose to the ground, inching forward.
Consider would it feel like to rise up above the fog, to breathe, to evaluate, to consider, to look more clearly at where you've been and lessons learned, and then to continue your journey with increased vision?
How would that change things? What might you see? How might you use what you see to inform your forward-facing movement?
It is healthy to set aside time to notice what is becoming clearer to you.
Consider these four ways to begin...
Recognize what you are focusing on. Stop your activities for a moment, pause, and notice what you are currently focused on. Is it the to-do list in front of you? The mess that needs to be cleaned up? The regrets about how that last argument unfolded? The struggle you are having with your child? Notice.
Close your eyes, rise up. Literally. Close your eyes and imagine rising up above it all. Look around. Take note of what you see, including important relationships that matter to you after all, how the crumbs on the kitchen floor aren't even visible in the big picture, the additional options that are visible from this vantage point. Look back and notice how far you have come, consider the skills you have gathered along the way, take a breath. Now look forward, what else can you see?
Create a vision statement or guideposts for yourself, based on what you see. Help yourself by creating an overall vision statement and/or guideposts for your journey...
"Even though I am frustrated by my child a good chunk of the time, I will focus on staying in strong connection as the most important thing."
"My current position is super frustrating, I commit to making more spacious choices that will serve me better."
"I am tired; I will remember to put myself first and make good choices about self care so that I keep my oxygen mask firmly in place."
As you move forward, constantly check in with your vision statement and/or guideposts to ensure that you make decisions that are aligned with your higher vision.
Create quiet space on a regular basis. Turn off all media, stop listening to the podcast, create quiet space for your mind to naturally rise up, to unhook, to rest, to become spacious.
And then exhale.
Actions, aligned with values, support optimal health.