- Ricka Robb Kohnstamm
Which limiting beliefs are keeping you stuck?
"This will never work... I won't even try because I might fail and then where will I be?"
"I'll never have enough money to... I don't dare take a risk because I might lose everything and then how will I take care of myself?"
"I have no choice but to push beyond everyone else and take charge... There is only one way to do this and if make any other choice, it is way too risky."
"This is too hard, I can't do it."
We all get swirled up in sticky thoughts that keep us captive, and for good reason. Our brains, in a strange way, are trying to protect us. If we don't risk to stretch out, break through, shatter the walls of the old way, we preserve the status quo.
The status quo can feel safer to our brain than the unknown, even if the "known" is uncomfortable, not good for our health, and limiting.
We can thank our lizard brain for attempting to keep us safe and then we can ask it to step aside so we can make decisions that will take us further, make us happier, allow us to live more closely aligned with our potential.
When you are ready to step back from limiting beliefs consider what else is possible...
Notice the limiting belief and then pause. Limiting beliefs sound like definitive statements... notice and pause.
"This will never work..."
"I'll never have enough..."
"No one will ever..."
"I can't because..."
"I have no choice..."
"This is too hard..."
Etc. Fill in your own.
During the pause, ask yourself a few questions:
"Is this actually true? How do I know?"
"Based on what?"
"According to whom?"
Stretch out your thinking and consider what might be possible if your original statement is NOT actually true?
"If I were to try this and it works, I might..."
"If I trust myself to take a limited risk, I might be able to..."
"If I were to try something different, it's possible that..."
"I actually always have choice and when I consider my options, I can..."
Spacious thinking feels much better.
As always, actions, aligned with values, support optimal health.